You were fighting again; his response was to walk out and not come back. The question is, what happens now? If you’re sure that your marriage is over and that this isn’t just another argument, you need to take some time to think about what you want. Obviously, he’s already walked out, so what’s going to happen is pretty clear, but even so, it’s natural to need some time.
Being abandoned by your spouse, because that’s what this is, is hard to take. Knowing what to do next, especially when children are involved can be incredibly difficult. The most important thing is not to rush into anything and to take your time thinking about what the next steps are. To help you get to grips with what needs to be done next, here are a few tips.
Attempt to contact your partner
The first thing that you need to do is attempt to get in contact with your partner. This may be easy as you may know where they’re staying or it may be more difficult. It’s important to get in touch with them so that you can discuss things and see where he stands on everything. If you can’t get in touch with him, it could be worth hiring a private investigator to track him down.
Do some research
Before doing anything else, it’s a good idea to do some research to see where you stand. Take the time to use Google to work out what the rules and regulations are when it comes to divorce after spousal abandonment. The way that this is dealt with in each area differs, so make sure to research the laws in place in your local area.
Talk to your family and friends
As with any breakup, there’s no need to go through it alone. Instead of dealing with everything by yourself, talk to your friends and family. Don’t be afraid to tell them what’s going on, in difficult times, they can be your support system. Dealing with family breakdowns are hard, especially when children are involved. So don’t make the mistake of trying to deal with everything, yourself. You’ll feel less stressed out if you share your problems with your nearest and dearest, as they’ll be able to help you decide what to do.
File for divorce
The next step to take, if you’re sure that your marriage is over, is filing for divorce. This may be an incredibly upsetting decision to make, but if it’s what’s best for you and your family, it’s the right call. Family breakdowns are tough but what it’s important to understand is that the sooner things get sorted out, the easier it will be. Make sure to hire a good lawyer, so that you get what you are entitled to in the divorce.
If your husband has just walked out and left you and your children, it can be hard to know what to do. What’s important is that for your children’s sake that you start to move on from what happened and attempt to get life back to normal. This will be difficult at first but in time things will get easier.