And by sex I mean hook-up!
Last night I slept at a guy’s house who I used to have sex with. We are awesome together…get along great…great chemistry….but for some reason it just doesn’t work. Bottom line: we are both hot headed. He has his beliefs and I have mine. We have spent many late nights debating the age old story of the difference between men and women.
He has his point of view and I have mine. That is okay…but our perspectives are at two very different ends of the spectrum. With that being said, for me…. its not worth us having sex. I can’t just have sex with a guy anymore and keep my emotions detached. I don’t want to emit old, sticky emotions if I know we can’t date. So I slept at his house… cuddled, spooned, he tried to have sex with me…but we did not.
In the morning we had our “pillow talk”. We even came up with some great new titles for the website, talked about having a cup of coffee a day, his new gym regiment (how he is using ropes and kettle bells to stabilize his abs) and I complained about my weeks obstacles. Sounds like a typical relationship…right? But it is not one. We are friends!
If he showed our 12 hour interaction to his friends at lunch and presented me as a √ list what do you think they would say…???
She complained about her hard week (No √)
She was worried about her weight gain from the late night eating (No √)
She slept in her underwear. A half naked lady in bed (√)
She didn’t talk too much. She let me sleep (definitely a √)
She did not have sex with me (Absolutely No √).
I don’t want to assume…but I think his friends would say “Don’t ever call her again.”
The cons outweighed the pros, so I would probably not get the overall seal of approval √ mark.
U make the decision!
We may never find the healthy balance between men and women and what is acceptable. But at least this morning when I got dropped off at my car (in my clothes from the night before) I got to start my typical morning. I bought my disposable electric cigarette and my daily coffee, but I am the same girl as I was yesterday, not emotionally changed one bit. That is a √ mark for me.
I am sure he would not agree with me on that:)!STEFANIE SEIFER Co-Founder of DirtyandThirty.com www.StefanieSeifer.com Follow me on twitter @StefSeifer
Is it still called the "Walk of Shame" if you don't have sex?