Dating Trends You Need To Know in 2020. With all the websites and apps (not to mention the partnered friends and relatives!), finding “the one” just became a lot more complicated. Tinder, Bumble and, good old Facebook have made it super-easy to connect with people who seemingly have similar interests as you do, but algorithms can (often) be faulty.
Today, maybe more than ever, singles have tons of resources, they are more confident, more self-aware, and more ready to have real discussions about what they are looking for.
But it is still a jungle out there – unacceptable behavior and unorthodox ways of meeting make the dating waters even murkier.
Understanding the current lingo and trends is one way to arm yourself as you head out into the dating world.
To be forewarned is to be forearmed.
This article describes some interesting dating trends you may run into in 2020. So, in order to be prepared, it is important to learn dating lingo and stay on top of it!
Let’s dive into it!
As the name suggests, this term is inspired by famous rapper Kanye West. Just like the rapper, you will have been Kanye’d by your date if they spend the entire date talking about themselves, their interests, achievements, and aspirations.
It’s not surprising either; some research has shown that millennials tend to be more narcissistic than preceding generations, although it hasn’t been proven definitively.
Don’t be shocked should you end up sitting across from someone who feels like they are the best thing since sliced bread.
You met this person and instantly hit it off. So you asked them for their number and they gave it to you. Waiting to call them seems like the longest few hours or days of your life.
Unfortunately, when you finally reach out, the person that gave you the number completely ignores your calls or text.
How is this different from “ghosting”, you ask? Well, to be ghosted, you had the initial interaction followed by complete silence. In this phenomenon, you don’t get through to them at all, hence the term.
Picture this: you just met someone who looks interesting, and you’re looking forward to meeting on a date. You “glam up” and prepare yourself to leave so that you can get to your date in time.
We’ve all had that one friend who completely disappeared into their partner and almost ceased becoming their own person. You call her, but she is not there. No more movie nights, popcorns and Sex and the City binge nights. Your friend has turned into a we-person and always starts her sentences with We want to, We went to, We would like to, etc.
Well, this phenomenon is what’s called eclipsing: when a person takes on the projects, interests, and hobbies of their new partner.
You are a Leo, Myers-Brigg’s Thinker whose love language is words of affirmation.
Therefore, you decided that the only partner that makes you happy must be some type of person, based on these characteristics.
You won’t even think about dating anyone else. Congratulations, what you’re doing is called type-casting.
Right from the football analogy, yellow-carding means calling out your date when they behave or speak inappropriately.
Especially when the relationship is new, there’s a tendency to simply ignore bad or rude behavior, because you don’t want to be thought of as confrontational. But this generation isn’t afraid to tell it like it is!
Your partner is bland and boring, and there’s nothing to explain why you’re still with them, except that they’re really hot.
You’re white clawing your partner, and trust us, no one comes out a winner in that scenario. The sooner you face up to reality, the less time wasted.
You met this person, and right from the get-go, you knew they were absolutely wrong for you, but you did it anyway, that is exactly what fleabagging is.
Fleabagging is, unfortunately, extremely toxic-to-self as you tend to be blind and constantly date the same person in a, sort of a, make up and brake up vicious circle.
More than half of singles today admit to consistently dating a person they knew was wrong for them, more of them women than men.
Again, you aren’t doing anyone any service staying in the wrong relationship.
A lot of people tend to think that if you are constantly drawn to a wrong person or find yourself dating the same “type” of the people that you don’t get along with, chances are you have suffered a certain type of trauma that you are trying to re-create due to the familiarity of the situation.
Lurking after a relationship has ended is a big problem, and it’s called exoskeleton-ing. Basically, any time your current partner’s ex reaches out to you through WhatsApp, Viber, Messanger or privately… Yes, we have all been there.
Especially in this age of social media, more people complain about their ex refusing to leave them alone long after they broke up.
However, sometimes the cause of these social media haunting can be in the fact that one of the two former lovers keep breadcrumbing the other one. Breadcrumbing is all about “leaving breadcrumbs” of hope for a person and picking someone’s interest without specifying if there will be or not a positive outcome.
Dating today is so complicated that, if you find someone good enough for you, always remember that relationships are built on the pillars of conversation, interests, mutual love and respect. However, if you are in it for the adventure, familiarize yourself with the rules so that you never get caught on the wrong side of them. If you do, smile, brush off the dust and keep fighting the good fight.
Good luck as you get out there!
Guest post by Ashley Lipman