While reading Adventures in babysitting (Luchana confesses she has ‘daddy issues’ which is why she dates older men), it struck me that I have the opposite problem – I almost always date men who are at least a couple years younger than me. I also happen to have severe “mommy issues”, along with a shit ton of abandonment issues. Could there be a connection? I would like to imagine that yes, I’ve made an amazing breakthrough in the world of psychology.
I’m sure that I haven’t. I do believe that my issues have something to do with dating younger men, or at least men with a certain level of emotional maturity. Look, I cannot help that they like me. I like them. They are fun, they are chill, and they don’t want to put a ring on it any time soon – right up my alley. Maybe they can smell the fact that I’m not looking for some long-term commitment, marriage or a baby. I like that they dote on me, and I like feeling attractive to younger guys… I’ve been a “puma” for years now. Yeah, I’m a Peter Pan. I’m aware. I am okay with it, and apparently, so are men in their early to mid-twenties. The problem is, a lot of them can’t even buy me a Big Mac, or a fro-yo. I am self-sufficient but I am sure eventually this will get to me.
So if I have issues with my mom, why do I have such a savior complex? Why do I want to mother and take care of my boys? I suppose I like being in control of the situation. Anyway, I dated a guy who was 6 years older than me for quite a while, and he was more emotionally stunted than anyone I’ve ever met, so age doesn’t mean everything. I have always been attracted to baby faces, and I hate too much body hair. Maybe something is wrong with me. When I meet a real man who does not need any saving and who looks and acts like a grown up, I have no idea what to do with him. A functional relationship? Oh, the horror!
I am not sure how this will all end. People keep telling me, “stop dating boys and start dating men.” I am honestly not sure if I am attracted to typical “men”. Who can help what they like? Apparently not me though I try to feel otherwise. I do not want anything serious and most guys my age or a little older are getting to the point now where they are looking to settle down. I suppose that is part of my problem. Did I happen to mention my severe commitment phobia yet? Ah, issues. The answer may be as simple as starting a serious relationship with a therapist…ha!