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N.E.R. (Not Emotionally Ready)
by Stefanie Seifer

Warning ladies…Stay away…

N.E.R.

Not Emotionally Ready!

 

Warning signs that a guy is N.E.R.:

He tells you he doesn’t want a relationship.

He tells you he is not emotionally ready.

He gets close to you, then pulls away.

He stares at the waitress when you are on a “date”.

His eyes wander toward every female in a close proximity.

He talks about his mother and ex girlfriend at least once every time you see him.

He consistently asks about your friend while he is clearly showing interest in you.

He constantly talks about “his type”, when you are so obviously not it.

He makes plans with you, but they never seem to pan out.

…I can go on and on, but I think you get the point.

If you are wasting your time with a guy that has any of these qualities…STAY AWAY.  You are just going to harm yourself.

Adverse side effects – Hanging around with a N.E.R. guy may lead to a false sense of lower self-esteem and self-worth. Risks are very high and may cause you to cry, eat excess sugar, or load up on carbs.

Warning – you will think it is your fault.  IT IS NOT, IT HAS NOTHING TO DO WITH YOU, except for the fact that you are not acknowledging the fact that this guy is a N.E.R. and not worth your time.

Side-note – You cannot train, manipulate, or woo a N.E.R. guy no matter how hard you try.  If a guy is Not Emotionally Ready, he is Not Emotionally Ready PERIOD.

Important – You may have a short lapse in judgment and believe he is emotional ready right before and during sexual encounters, but the truth will reveal itself again right after the deed is done.  STAY AWAY:)

*The phrase N.E.R. was coined by Jessica D.

 

 

Stefanie Seifer

Co-Founder of DirtyandThirty.com. Human/Creator/Actor She loves finding her inner goddess, drinking wine, and you can usually find her on a spin bike or a yoga class 5 days a week. Besides co-founding DirtyandThirty.com, she's an actress and can whip up some fabulous classic cocktails. Although not a fabulous cook, you can find her at the farmers market every Monday and loves to frequent restaurants, bars, and local speakeasies. www.StefanieSeifer.com

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7 Responses to N.E.R. (Not Emotionally Ready)

  1. So true!!!!!!! Good call Stef!

  2. James Earl says:

    Let me start by saying, “What an awesome website!”

    Secondly, let me say that the term “NOT EMOTIONALLY READY” is a term women make up to feel better about themselves. Trust me! Women are always looking for a reason to take the blame off them. And that’s okay ladies. But if a man ever says that, call BULLSHIT! If he says it, he just doesn’t want to be with YOU! All men are emotionally ready, unless they have murdered someone and are possibly running from the police. Then I can see it!

    He gets close to you, then pulls away. Do you mean, sleeps with you and pulls away? You gave him a horrible “BJ” and doesn’t call you? That’s as CLOSE as you can get. Maybe he realized he has a piece of ass better than you.

    He stares at the waitress when you are on a “date”. Don’t forget about the players who don’t need to stare at the waitress. A true player will give you all the attention you need to get in the panties, then come back to the same restaurant and get the phone number. It can’t be stopped ladies. If he peeks, you check out the hot bartender and make it obvious. teach him a lesson.

    His eyes wander toward every female in a close proximity. That’s just plain stupid. If you’re dating a guy that does this, it’s because you are not doing something right. Have some balls ladies. Just put the guy on the spot and ask him why he is such a sleaze. Do you shake when you get out of the shower? Have you had a flea bath recently?

    He talks about his mother and ex girlfriend at least once every time you see him. Really? That’s just dumb!

    He consistently asks about your friend while he is clearly showing interest in you. HAHAHA! My advice is, don’t introduce him to your better-looking friend until you know he is in love with you! Don’t make bad mistakes women!

    He constantly talks about “his type”, when you are so obviously not it. HAHAHA!!! Just walk away! But make him buy you dinner first and start asking about his best friend!

    He makes plans with you, but they never seem to pan out. Chances are he’s telling you one thing and doing another. Don’t fall for the, “BUT HE’S SO NICE TO ME” “HE’S JUST BUSY”…Busy tappin some other ass! You are just a warm hole. I know it hurts, but it’s true!

    Once again! There is NO such thing as a guy not emotionally ready! Take a step back and look at yourself in the mirror. Ask yourself, Are you the best person you can possibly be? Are you in shape emotionally AND physically? Do you look your best and carry a positive attitude? Are you confident or do you come off as needy. Don’t let men have the control! Ladies, you have the control. Men are more attracted to confident women. Don’t spend every 2 minutes looking at your phone to see if he’s texting you! You not only look desperate, but it’s plain embarrassing. If you are this person, you need a serious self-esteem overhaul! Take control of yourself and stop stepping on the guy’s heels giving him flat tires.

    Love Yourself More!

    FORMER PLAYER

  3. Jennifer Webb says:

    ooohhhh the NER man…not to be confused with the Man Baby…

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  5. There might be more than just an emotional component. It could be financial too. I don’t know how to do this it might make sense to sit him down and do a full audit. If you are in debt up to your eyeballs it can mess with your head. This is the kind of thing guys don’t like to talk about because it, they sense (Tongue and cheek humor here) Charles Darwin is looking at them and saying, “You’re not going to make it and are going to be eaten by a larger fish.” This is why I wish I could just administer Sodium Pentothal people sometimes.

  6. P.S.S. I am an honest guy, if I say I am busy, I am busy at work, I work in the movie business. I work in post-production. I met the person who edited “the Notebook” all this guy did was sleep and edit. He told me it was hard on his marriage but she knew he was at work for 18+ hours a day. If somebody doesn’t believe me, I’ll take sodium pentathol and a lie detector test. I also have several co-workers that can vouch for me. Its a tough call, if you really love the person for who they are as they are than you can accept that being hard working and motivated is a positive attribute. No one is perfect, but if he is just hard working and motivated that is small price to pay, if he is that dedicated to his job, he is probably equally dedicated to you.

  7. Amy says:

    Ah. So true. So done with all of it.

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