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Booty call rules- How Do You Keep Sex Casual?
by Amy Horton


I admit it – I’m a 28-year-old novice when it comes to casual sexual encounters.  I have always been a serial monogamist, and when not in a long-term relationship, I am usually too heartbroken/depressed/paranoid/busy to do anything about it.  I once went a whole year without sex because I just simply couldn’t find anyone I deemed worth it.  And yes, for the last 6 months of that year I was basically grumpy and unbearable to be around.

 

You might have already gathered this from my past blogs, but I make mistakes when it comes to guys.  A lot of mistakes.  That is why I stay away from dating entirely some of the time.  It just ends up being too complicated and too much work.

 

The few times I have tried hooking up, it never really works for me.  I suck at it.  I always pick the wrong guys.  You would think every guy in the world would love a girl who wants to keep things casual, right?  Wrong.  I have a knack for picking the guys that are going to start liking me regardless of how clear I make things.  I guess that’s what I get for hating douche bags too much to give them the time of day, even for a no-commitment hookup.  Someone always ends up with feelings, and feelings are messy when it comes to casual sex.  I cannot bring myself to do a true one-night stand.  I am much too paranoid about STDs and pregnancy, and I’m trying to keep both of them very, very far away from me!

 

Here are some tips, courtesy of my mistakes:

 

-       Know that there is always the risk of things getting messy.  Chances are you don’t know your hookup all that well, and if you do, you risk ruining a friendship.   If you don’t, you have no way of knowing that both of you will be able to maintain the casual nature of the relationship without one or the other developing feelings.

-       If it really is just about the sex, keep it at that.  Do not spend too much other time together and give the impression that it is something it is not, or that you want something that you don’t.

-       Be very honest.  Be upfront about what you want from the situation.  Establish that your partner is clean and STD-free.  Establish any ground rules or boundaries right away.  If you fail to do this, you put yourself and him at risk physically, mentally, and emotionally.

-       Also, be honest about any other people you see.  I find it best personally not to sleep with more than one person at once.  If you are planning on dating or hooking up with someone new, let everyone know the truth about what is going on.  You should expect, and get, the same courtesy in return.

-       Have some fun!  Once you get all of that locked down, hookups are meant to be no-strings-attached good times.  You can choose someone based purely on selfish and shallow reasons and focus entirely on the awesome sex you are having.

Enjoy it!

 

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Amy Horton

I am an actress and writer living in and loving Los Angeles! I tend towards brutal honesty, but I have a big heart and an adventurous spirit. Writing for DirtyAndThirty.com is my favorite activity :-)

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