People like to say that marriage ruins your sex life. It’s just not true. Whatever your relationship status (married/dating/living together/etc), after being with someone for awhile you may notice a decline in your sexual activities. For the most part it’s not because you’re no longer attracted to the person, or your clitoris left to rejoin all the horny teenagers. It’s because you just got fucking busy!
The older we get (and I mean all of us 20’s, 30’s, 40’s…) the more life likes to fill our time. Job, house, vehicle, sleepovers at the DMV waiting for your turn in line, kids, pets, friends and family insisting you make time for their love….all good things! (minus the dreaded DMV of course) All these wonderful additions to our lives take up our oh-so-precious time.
So lately my husband and I have been bringing back the art of the quickie. As much as we enjoy a long, love-making session or fun ‘throw me around the room and pull my hair’ sessions, we don’t always have time for it. So we’ve started having 5-10 minute ‘make me come now’ sessions. They’re fun and sexy and help us reconnect when life’s craziness tries to pull us apart. It reminds us that we like to play with each other. Keeping the love alive in a relationship takes a little effort, so here’s a good place to start. I don’t care if you have to write it down in your planner, remind yourself to take 10 minutes out of your day and go randomly attack your mate, even if it’s just to make out…you’ll thank me later.
Speaking of…I’m going to go jump mine in the garage right now.
~By Sarah Matthews