In a perfect world, every couple would be perfectly sexually compatible. They would both agree, without even having to ask, on all sexual preferences – and, in particular, frequency. There’d be no risk of rejection, no “sorry I’m not in the mood” – just complete, absolute agreement.
Unfortunately, for most couples, the perfect world as described above simply doesn’t exist. There are a number of different sexual dynamics that can develop between a couple, with the high libido/low libido perhaps the most common – but usually, it’s presumed that it’s the guy with the high libido and the woman with the low.
If you find yourself in the exact opposite scenario – your libido is high, your partner’s is low – then it can feel incredibly isolating, as there’s relatively little support on how this particular dynamic can be managed. So, we thought we’d step in, and provide a few tips that can help you find a route forward…
Discuss the issue openly
If your partner’s libido is lower than yours, it can be tempting to want to stay quiet and not force the issue – but remaining silent will likely just cause resentment to build between you.
It’s therefore important to bring the issue out into the open. You don’t need to have a full, frank, sit-down discussion; try to incorporate it into general conversation, keeping things light, and focusing on listening to the other’s perspective and seeing the matter is a joint concern. By working together and keeping communication open, you’re all the more likely to be able to explore options and find a solution that works for you both.
Look for underlying issues
Okay, let’s be clear before we get into this: a man having a low libido is normal, just as it would be for a woman. Low libidos happen; we’re all different, it takes all sorts, and so on.
However, it is always worth investigating a range of solutions if your partner would like to improve their libido. This could mean a trip to the doctor is in order, as a low libido can be a sign of low testosterone levels, anxiety, or chronic stress. It’s also worth considering the likes of Provarin to create an extra sense of “pep”, as well as encouraging your partner to eat known aphrodisiac foods – every little helps, after all.
Consider scheduling sex
Okay, so the idea of scheduling sex sounds about as sexy as, well… scheduling sex, if we’re honest: boring, perfunctory, and lacking in all spontaneity.
However, scheduling sex can help to balance a high libido/low libido dynamic. You can avoid the risk of constant rejections and will always have something to look forward to; he avoids the discomfort of having to reject you and can work to ensure he’s in the right frame of mind when the scheduled days arrive. It’s a win/win – and if you both stick to the schedule, it could lead to further, more spontaneous developments in future.
Being the high libido partner in a relationship can be difficult, but hopefully, the tips above should help you – and your partner – forge a new, mutually satisfying future.