I believe, as women, we are naturally sexy. Whether you discovered this phenomenon at a young age or into adult hood, it is an undeniable truth: you are “sexy.” You started doing your hair, your make-up, finding your own style and developing curves – boys started to notice. So, how much is too much and when is it appropriate to reveal your inner “sexy” to the world without being a slut to society? Was it wearing make-up to school, shaving your legs for the first time or your crush that chased you around the playground trying to kiss you at recess? I found my “sexy” at a pretty young age and it was one of the most enlightening and memorable discoveries of my life.
Remember when Paula Abdul’s “Cold Hearted” was number one on the charts and the video flooded MTV like it was never going out of style? I danced around the house, pretending to seduce the up tight business suits and, at that moment, I truly discovered what “sexy” really felt like. Madonna’s “True Blue” album supported that discovery. Even at age six I could dance and lip sing the entire album without stopping and it seemed completely acceptable to my family (cheap babysitter I guess). It became an addiction. All I wanted to do was dance around in my leotard and put on a show. I didn’t know that “Cold Hearted” was ripped off of Bob Fosse’s “All That Jazz” and, at that age I didn’t care, but I would come to realize that I was not the first female to find “sexy” and definitely won’t be the last.
A few years passed and Britney Spears gave me another hit with her single “Baby One More Time”. As a teenager, this artist (and all of her music) provoked the next level of my inner sexy. I graduated the leotard and found my mid drift.
I became a professional dancer in my early 20’s. I’ve traveled the world with bands, I’ve had some pretty cool choreography gigs (most notably for Kelly Rowland) and I’ve done my fair share of Gogo dancing. It’s always made me feel good. So why do I have the feeling that I’ve hit and age where I’m supposed to throw in the towel? Dancing in a club seemed acceptable in my 20’s but now that I’m pushing 30 I’m thinking “should I really be dancing sexy in front of an audience? Is it time to settle down, have kids and be normal?”
Fuck that! Why would I think “normalcy” includes giving up something I love? Plus, being sexy IS NORMAL! Don’t deny a woman’s condition, especially when it empowers, provokes and entertains your soul.
My mom started Belly Dancing about 5 years ago and became “professional” just a couple of years later. She’s in her 50’s and is a very talented dancer! It keeps her youthful, in shape, and of course, feeling sexy.
From Belly Dancing, Bob Fosse to Madonna and Britney…the past inspired the present as the present will inspire the future: Sexy is a woman’s condition. Being sexy does not discriminate based on age, race or size. It’s in every woman by default. I happen to love dancing…what makes you feel sexy?