People always ask…why aren’t you married? Why don’t you have kids? I will
admit…I will be the first to jokingly say…by the time I have a child they will come
up with a way that I won’t have to carry it for nine months cause frankly
giving birth is a bit scary to me and nine months is a really long time and I
have a lot of things I want to accomplish. Having a baby is one of those things,
but it isn’t at the very top of my list. However, as we get older it is either going to
get pushed to the tippy top of the list or taken off the list completely. This
generation has options and the options will continue to grow as technology and
science continues to grow.
A few weeks ago I watched an interview with Maria Menounos on Lifechangers
and she was talking about her decision to freeze her eggs. She told Dr. Drew
Pinsky “I’m 33, and I decided that I know I have a couple of years of work I want
to get to, and then do it,”
WHY DIDN’T I THINK OF THAT??? OMG what a great idea to freeze your eggs
when you are in your late 20’s early 30’s to ensure healthy eggs for the future.
Our bodies age but our eggs age even more and also become few and far
between. As women we are more independent than ever and we have more
opportunities at our disposal. We make our own money. We buy our own
houses. We rise to the top of our field. We go to college. It seems as if our goals
have shifted a bit because we are so overwhelmed with opportunities. Not too
long ago we dreamt of meeting our husband, having children and being a
fabulous mother & homemaker. While that feeling may still linger for some,
lets do a serious fast forward to 2011. Sociologist Paul Amato of Pennsylvania
State University for a 2007 book he co-wrote suggests from his studies that older
marriages (30s vs. 20s) were more cohesive in the sense they did things more
often together as a couple. And couples who married at older ages were less
likely to report thinking about divorce or that their marriage was in trouble.
Waiting for a later in life marriage means waiting for a later in life child.
“Just because you freeze your eggs doesn’t mean there’s a 100 percent
chance you’re going to have a baby, but it absolutely doesn’t affect your
chance of getting pregnant naturally,” says Los Angeles fertility specialist Dr.
Around 1,000 to 2,000 babies around the world have been born using frozen
eggs, according to the Society for Assisted Reproductive Technology, which sets
industry guidelines. This may not seem viable for some but it is an option. The
great thing about being alive in this day and age is that we have options.
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Kimlai is the creator of EatinAsian.com and RoKi Productions. EatinAsian has fierce recipes, restaurant reviews, quirky "how to" videos & insight into a culture that is often misunderstood. Before EatinAsian Kimlai wrote, produced and hosted weekly video webcasts based on entrepreneurial topics for Entrepreneur Magazine and PerfectBusiness.com targeting the x and y generations. She also co-wrote and hosted two video training courses; How to write an effective business plan and How to use PR to promote your business. Her passion is cooking. "My mom and I have been cooking in the kitchen together for years. I’ve always had an interest in the cuisine and culture of Vietnam but it became a full-fledged obsession when my mom felt it was a good idea for me to learn how to create her food in the event that, if she were not around, I would know how to make her healthy & yummy cuisine. Otherwise I would never eat Vietnamese food again, except for rice paper (rice paper is to Asians what a tortilla is to Latinos) unless I went to a restaurant. Cooking your own food is all about being self sufficient and everyone knows no ones cooking is better than mom’s home cooking, no matter what nationality you are. I’m finding that the more knowledgeable I become with ingredients and cooking styles the higher my expectations are when I go out to eat at other restaurants and when I’m cooking for family and friends. My palate has definitely become more sophisticated". My passion is what created EatinAsian.com. My love for writing, producing and hosting is what created RoKi Productions. Kimlai has a bachelor degree in Communications with a minor in Psychology from Washington State University. She is registered with the California Special Olympics organization and currently resides in Los Angeles, CA.