I say this with love, because we’ve all been there and we’ve all done it – stop settling. You deserve better and until you truly understand your worth, you’ll never be happy in a relationship. You can’t pick the right person if you don’t know who you are.
It takes a while to figure out what you want and don’t want. Unfortunately sometimes this means that you settle for men who don’t treat you correctly. It’s okay, and it happens, but you need to stop. If you don’t believe that you deserve real, special love, then you need to take a break from dating and work on yourself for a while. You’ll never build the kind of relationship you want on such a shaky foundation anyway. Trust that once you figure out who you really are, everything will come more easily – including finding a great partner.
The irony is that once you’re truly and securely happy on your own because you’ve discovered who you are, that’s when someone will come along. You can be alone and you’re perfectly fine with it. That confident energy attracts other people. Because you’ve built a deep knowledge of yourself, everyone wants to know you. They are drawn to something intangible, something they hardly even understand. Discerning men looking for women of quality will seek you out once you are in this head space.
If you wait, if you are patient, if you go about your business and build your best life – you have nothing to worry about. Don’t waste the precious energy of your soul on men who don’t appreciate or understand how magical you are. Don’t distract yourself with people who keep you from enjoying the best version of your life. Don’t sell yourself short by giving your heart and your body over to those who don’t know what to do with them.
Build a strong and stable home within yourself for a beautiful love and that love will find you. Trust in that and value each precious moment you have, because once it arrives, it’ll be there to stay. Enjoy your growth and journey in both self-love and the love of others.
Don’t settle. You are so much more than a vessel for some man’s justification of his inadequacies. Find the one who looks at you like you’re the stars in the night sky guiding him across a vast dark sea. You deserve nothing less.