When you first get into a brand new relationship, you tend to spend a lot more time and effort in building a bond and showing your other half just how much you love them. You wear pretty clothes, go to the fanciest restaurants and buy them lots of little gifts to show him just how much you care, but pretty soon, things start to change. You get comfortable, and it’s not long before you’re spending 24 hours in your sweats, ditching dates for Netflix binges and swapping grand gestures for a list of complaints.
If you’re at this stage in your relationship, it might be time to step back, reevaluate your actions and spend more time showing your man how much you love him. There is a good chance he will pay you back in kind, and if he doesn’t, you might want to think honestly about your relationship and whether it’s going anywhere. In the meantime, check out these simple tips for showing your man you love him:
Give Him Your Full Attention
Sometimes, all it takes to show your man you care and put some sparkle back in your relationship is to pay attention. Actually, listen when he speaks, absorb the information and ask questions. If you know exactly what he likes and dislikes and you are able to show him that you do actually care what he says enough to remember it, he’ll appreciate the effort, and you’ll be the best girlfriend he’s ever had.
Of course, paying attention to your guy will only get you so far – you’ll also need to take a genuine interest in his life. Even if you don’t think you have any interest in football, computer games or weight training, if you give them a try, there’s a good chance you will find something about your man’s favorite activities that you like, and even if you don’t, indulging him in his favorite pastimes will help you to bond. I mean, is it really too much to ask that you each get involved with each other’s interests?
Give Him Gifts
Give your guy little gifts not just on Valentine’s day, Christmas and his birthday, but on spontaneous occasions just because you can. They can be simple gifts like a new shirt, a gold chain, or that computer game they’ve been eyeing up – it doesn’t really matter. What does matter is that you put some thought into the gift, showing them that you’ve got the first two points on this list covered, and surprising them with your generosity. Doing this once in awhile will show your guy that you have been thinking about him and who doesn’t want to be thought about by their girl or guy?
You should always make the effort to at least ask your man if he would like to accompany you on various trips, events and nights out. He probably won’t say yes all the time, but by asking him, you are signaling that you enjoy his company and that you’re always happy to have him around.
Give Him Some Space
Conversely, it is also important to give your guy some space. If you try to schedule every second of his free time for your own, he will begin to wonder whether you trust him. Not only that, but a guy needs time to spend with his male friends, bonding, joking and, yes, occasionally venting about you. I mean, you need to vent to your friends sometimes, right? It relieves the pressure and allows you to focus on maintaining a happy, healthy relationship. Your guy deserves the same, so allow him his freedom, and he’ll know you love him.
Hang Out with Their Friends
There are few things which put a strain on relationships more than spouses who hate each other’s friends and aren’t shy about it. Even if you think his best friend is a first-grade idiot, make the effort to hang out with him now again and avoid the urge to trash talk him to your girlfriends. You don’t have to like him – you just have to tolerate him with grace a couple of fo times a month or so.
Nagging your spouse is a big no-no. Fine, ask them to do something, but leave it at that. Unless your guy really isn’t pulling his weight around the house, upon which you might want to have a frank, argument free conversation with him, just let it go. No one likes to be nagged, and it can put a huge strain on any relationship, so avoid it for as long as it is unavoidable.
Give Him Compliments
When you’ve been together for a while, it can be easy to become complacent about giving compliments, but guys, just like us girls, need to know that their partner finds them attractive sometimes. You don’t have to constantly be telling him how good he looks, but if he’s just shaved and he’s looking hot, or he’s wearing a cute new outfit, let him know that you’ve noticed and you like what you see.
Get Out of Your Comfort Zone
When you’re relationship is getting too comfortable, you really need to get out of your comfort zone and try new things. If your man is desperate to go rock climbing or visit a far-flung destination and it just isn’t your thing, try to do it anyway and have him do something you’ve always wanted to try. By throwing yourself into new challenges, you can bond, build new meaningful experiences together and show your spouse that you are willing to do things for him because you love him.
Show Your Appreciation
If your guy is particularly good at woodwork or he has a great flair for style, would it kill you to let him know? Showing your appreciation for your spouse is one of the simplest ways to tell him you love him without actually saying the words.
Let Him Follow His Dreams
We all have dreams. Some are realistic, and some are not, but that doesn’t matter. What does matter is that the people closest to us are supportive of the things we want to do. So, never belittle you guy dreams or tell him that they’re impossible – be there to support him whether his wildest dreams come true or they fail spectacularly. Just be there, that’s all.
Talk Things Through
If you have a problem with your partner, instead of bitching about it to your friends or quietly seething away until your anger erupts into a messy fight, respect him enough to talk it through with him. If you discuss things like adults, without going behind each other’s backs and without explosive arguments, you will build mutual trust and respect and keep your relationship in a healthy place.
Tell Them You Love Them
Of course, most importantly of all, you should tell your man you love him and tell him frequently. Find new and exciting ways to tell him you love him too. You don’t have to sky write it, but sending a greetings card, leaving them a message on the fridge or a cute voicemail when you’re not together will show him that you really do love him.
Basically, what it comes down to is expressing your love as frequently and in as many ways as you can. If you do this, you are likely to get much more love back too, so it’s pretty much a win-win situation if your relationship is good.