I’m trying this new thing called “offline dating.” It’s cheaper than online dating and so far I’ve had the same amount of dates as online dating in the last month. Zero.
I’ve tried just about every dating site from OK Cupid, Plenty of Fish, and Tinder to Coffee Meets Bagel, Hinge, and eHarmony. Every three months, or so, I usually ended up getting a date off a free site like OK Cupid; but when I’d paid for a site, like Match or eHarmony, I never went on a single date.
I was recently on Match for a month and messaged over thirty men as *cough-cough* “research” for this blog. Not one of those men responded to the message I sent them. I even personalized each message to show that I read their profile and was interested in getting to know them.
Once again, for “research” purposes, I reached out to one of the guys I messaged on Match who didn’t respond. I thought look-wise he was “in my league,” and, based on his profile, I thought we had a lot in common and would get along personality-wise. I apologized for writing again and asked if he wouldn’t mind letting me know why he decided not to respond to my message. The guy responded that he didn’t find me attractive. Also, that I needed to learn what type of guys are in my league so I can stop wasting time with guys that obviously aren’t.
At first I was totally offended by this asshole’s demeaning message. Then it clicked: this is why online dating isn’t working for me. The type of man I’m looking to spend the rest of my life with isn’t on a dating site.
Do I have any idea how to meet this man? Hell if I know, but what I do know is it’s time to stop wasting my free time online dating and start getting back to the real world. Or at least take the money I would have spent on Match and take myself out for a nice steak dinner.