How to maintain the relations when your partners don’t meet often? It’s popularly believed that long distance relationship never works out, but it does not always work that way for every couple. Sometimes absence does make the heart grow fonder, and people learn to not to take their partners for granted when not always around.
It’s also worth noting that some couples far away from each other feel closer than couples who live with each other. They are more willing to communicate their problems with one another. But before diving into how to keep the magic intact, let’s know how to avoid ruining it in the first place.
Small things matters
You might not believe that so many don’t even realize that they are destroying their partner’s comfort by not considering things, like snoring or not able to sleep comfortably, can ruin relationships when you guys finally get to meet each other after such a long time.
Like snoring, It is so irritating to hear, but often you or your partner can’t even complain because that might hurt the other person. In this situation, you can use a snoring pillow.
Set up Skype dates or phone calls
Once you and your partner get settled in and adjust to your new lifestyles, let each other know about your schedules and routines depending on how much of a difference in your time zone is. You may need to take turns accommodating to each other’s availability to set up Skype dates or phone calls. Use a hybrid Mattress king to talk comfortably in bed without creating noises.
Sometimes things come up such as family emergencies, working overtime or illness that may interrupt your usual communication patterns. Rather than worrying about whether your partner is cheating on you or if they have grown bored of the relationship and may be spending more time with their friends know that there is no actual proof or evidence to back up those anxious thoughts.
Give something personal
Before the two of you depart, give each other something you can hold onto and remember one another. A few examples you may be inspired by include exchanging nightlights, stuffed animals, jewellery, hoodies or mugs. It does not have to be big or expensive. Instead, focus on how the object has served to bring meaning into your life. You can even give them a sleep pillow so that they remember you whenever they are trying to fall asleep.
Give some space
Consistent communication is important when the two of you are apart from each other, especially when the physical aspect of the relationship is absent. But too much of it can also backfire and leave the two of you feeling smothered or burnt out. Focus on the quality of your conversations instead of how frequently the two of you talk.
There may be times when you are exhausted from travelling back and forth and want to stay in and watch a movie with your partner or perhaps there is a delay in your flight that may ruin your dinner reservations. Doing fun activities and bonding with your partner is important, but sometimes it is good to go with the flow. Remember it is about the company you are with and not necessarily what the two of you do.
Embrace the challenges
Long distance relationships are complicated but do not let the challenges tear you apart instead embrace them together. Sometimes your insecurities may get the best of you. Consequently, you may believe the two of you would be better off breaking up and meeting new people. Take a step back and think about why you held on for so long in the first place.
Long-term relations are so much easier to maintain nowadays because of the technologies available to us. But it all boils down to how much effort you are putting. If you see all those things that are listed here are present between you and your partner, then you should not worry at all because you are certainly on the right track
Guest Post by Kathy Mitchell