Finding Confidence for a First Date


Let’s be honest: first dates can be nerve-wracking. Will it be awkward? Will you have anything in common? Will it be a match? Navigating the world of dating is overwhelming enough on its own. Without feeling like you’re putting your best foot forward, it is that much more difficult. It’s totally natural to feel nervous or unsure of how it’s going to go, but there’s no reason not to have a little bit of fun with it and see where the universe leads you.


If this sounds like it’s easier said than done or you are dusting off your dating skills, don’t worry, you’re not alone! When you need an extra boost of confidence to help make your first date a success, here are a few tips to keep in mind.


Tip #1: Get yourself pumped up. Whether you’re going to dinner and a movie, a picnic in the park or a fun afternoon event, it’s a good idea to get yourself in the right mindset. Listen to your favorite music. It could be acoustic music from Sam Smith to help calm you or let a bit of female empowerment rub off with powerhouse vocals from Beyonce. Who doesn’t want to feel “Flawless” while getting prepped for a first date?


Tip #2: Treat yourself. First dates are a big deal. What better excuse than to give yourself a little pampering to prep? Schedule a relaxing massage, a blowout, or manicure/pedicure. “Look good, feel good” rings true. Not only will you be looking your best, but it’s something nice to do for yourself at the same time. Allow yourself to splurge a little.


Tip #3: Buy something new. Now, before you think that you have to spend a lot of money to kick-start your dating life, you can pick and choose what you want to buy. It can be a new outfit, a new pair of shoes, or even a pretty piece of jewelry. If you don’t have your ears pierced, consider some Emitations clip ons to dress yourself up a little more than you normally do. You can choose what best suits your style with choices from studs, hoops, or chandeliers. Your date will never know your ears aren’t pierced.


Tip #4: Break in your shoes. If you decide to buy a new outfit, it doesn’t hurt to do a “dress rehearsal.” Make sure you can walk in your new shoes and test if they’re comfortable enough to last you through a few hours. Put on the outfit you’d like to wear and make sure there aren’t any lingering tags, too short hems, or anything that feels uncomfortable. You want to look your best, but you also want to look like yourself.


Tip #5: While it might be tempting in today’s social media-driven world, try to avoid going down the rabbit hole of looking up your date online. It may bring up misconceived perceptions and make you think one way about a person before even getting to know them. It’s easy to start becoming critical when you’re judging someone by their online activity.


Tip #6: Have a positive mindset. Even if you’ve been on terrible dates in the past (and who hasn’t?), go into your first date with a good attitude and no expectations. Even the best of dates may have a rocky start, but you already have luck on your side if you head in with a smile on your face and a confident attitude. Pro Tip: If you are especially apprehensive about the person (especially if you met him online), suggest meeting up for a casual drink on the earlier side of the evening. You can then tell him that you can’t stay too long because you have an obligation later in the evening (like meeting up for drinks with new coworkers). This way, you can easily escape if you are having a horrible time.


Are you planning the date together? If your date doesn’t have a specific idea in mind and has asked what you’d like to do, here are five fun options.

  • bowling
  • outdoor movie in the park
  • lunch at a new restaurant
  • neighborhood street festival
  • watching live music


These types of dates are casual, fun, and still provide the opportunity to talk and get to know each other.


Don’t feel overwhelmed or put too much pressure on the date. Have fun with it! Dating can be a lot of fun while you try to find your match. Although not every date will be a win, each one can still bring a few good stories and hopefully a few laughs. With your a stronger sense of confidence in tow, let the dating games begin!


Share your dating stories. What’s the worst first date you’ve been on? The best?

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