The dating game. The bane of my existence. It goes like this, I want more dating and less game. Emotions are not meant to be played with. Love isn’t some special edition version of Monopoly. Let’s for shits & giggles say it is, you’d find me currently stuck in the corner on “Get the Hell Over Him.” Guess what, I just rolled doubles! I’m free. Now what? I have no idea. That’s not completely true. I’ve decided to do a few things. I cordially invite you to join me!
#1 Press the Mute Button
I’m officially muting all of the “voices” that tell me what I should or shouldn’t do to get & keep a man. Being thirty and single means it’s time to get real with yourself. You’ve probably got a type. Mine just so happen to be douche bags. Do yourself a favor and find someone who is the exact opposite of that, go on a date with this man & then sit your ass down and realize that even though he might not be tall, dark & handsome he’s funny, kind & that spark you think is missing just needs time to develop! For me, he’s Rocky. I’m going to give this Rocky character a chance & see what happens when you trade a d-bag for a nice guy.
#2 Follow the Scent
Go to where the men are. HowAboutWe put together a list of fifty places you can meet a man when you’re finally over the bar scene. I’m definitely over the bar/club scene. Once you hit thirty you realize that Mr. Right is not on the dance floor busting a move. If we’re keeping it real you knew this at twenty-five but hey that’s what your twenties are for, busting a move, hangovers & a hook-up or two. You’re thirty now, review this list & put yourself in not so typical places that could lead to meeting a great guy that you wouldn’t have met otherwise. Can I also suggest doing things solo? I’m new to this but you know what venturing out solo style shines the spotlight on you & you are exactly who he, whoever he is should have his sights set on.
#3 Cool Your Jets
You’re the only one who can turn off the clock you hear ticking every time you meet a guy that you think remotely piques your interest. Dating is a two way street not a one way or dead end road as it sometimes feels, kind of like how I do at the moment. Those first few dates should be fun, light & a smart woman always keeps her options open! Don’t get stuck on stupid for some man before you really know him. You’re only setting yourself for failure. Let me tell you a little secret, I’ve failed. I failed myself. So remember that the best part of meeting a new guy is another chance to get it right or wrong in a new way.
In the words of Greg Behrendt, the man who told women everywhere He’s Just Not That into You:
Let’s start with this statistic: You are delicious. Be brave, my sweet. I know you can get lonely. I know you can crave companionship and sex and love so badly that it physically hurts. But I truly believe that the only way you can find out that there’s something better out there is to first believe there’s something better out there. What other choice is there?
Signed, a woman who knows that the world is full of men, possibility & love. XO