Big Questions You Have To Ask Your Partner Before Marriage


Becoming engaged and making a commitment to marriage is the biggest commitment you will ever make in your life.

Not only are you about to enter a time of crazy planning and decision-making, you are also about to embark on a path toward a life of losing part of yourself and sacrifice. When you become engaged you are taking a huge step in your life. It is definitely a venture you want to be prepared for by having the knowledge you need, before you enter onto a path that could lead to failure. The divorce rate is high in our world today and those who take the risk to work on things before tying the knot are bound to be more successful in marriage. In our modern day society, it seems hard for many people to keep their commitment, by the act of losing focus on their spouse. You must become very acquainted in advance with what it truly means to be married, to not become a statistic.

Big Questions You Have To Ask Your Partner Before Marriage

Questioning Helps You Prepare

To start with, you should ask yourself some questions about your relationship. Some of these questions should include ones such as the following:

  • Do you argue a lot? Do you not argue at all?
  • How long does it take you to work through conflicts?
  • Do you rely on your spouse for your confidence?
  • Are you too independent or do you depend on each other too much?
  • Are you in service of one another?
  • Do you sacrifice for each other (time, energy, money, comfort, wants, even needs, etc.)?
  • Have you found something greater than yourselves to live by?
  • Do you have a set of standards you follow together?

Have you asked yourselves and each other questions about your future together such as ones in this list?:

  • Do you want to have children?If so, how many?
  • Do each of us want to work full time?
  • How will we take care of the children we have?
  • What are our values, our beliefs?
  • What do we both feel are the best discipline techniques?
  • Do we want to buy a house or rent?
  • What kind of house or apartment do we want to live in?
  • Where do we want to live?
  • Where are we going to spend each holiday?
  • When are we going to see each of our family members?
  • Do each of us or both of us need alone time each day or each week?
  • How do we feel about the other going out with friends without the other?

Why Should We Question When We Love?

By asking yourselves many questions such as these and discussing the answers with each other, as well as possible solutions, you will learn to develop and grow. If there are disagreements, they will help you build a foundation and solid relationship with one another.

It will also help to improve communication, resolve conflicts with each other more effectively, have an increased dedication to each other and help in solving problems. In addition it will help you, as a couple, to emphasize positive aspects of each other and relationships in general, as well as increase the quality of your own relationship.

Most importantly it will help you to truly know each other and determine how compatible you are with one another. You will then also know if you will be able to stick it out when tough and deep conversations are to be had together.

Whatever you do, through having all of these conversations with each other, determine with one another how you are going to proceed to have similar talks in the future. It is good to come up with ground rules and even a set of standards for the way you will communicate, will handle conflicts together, and live by overall. Establishing a purpose, greater than yourselves, can help couples tremendously on the path of marriage to be able to work together and become a team in union, which is what marriage is all about.

Big Questions You Have To Ask Your Partner Before Marriage

Author Bio

Sylvia Smith is a relationship expert with years of experience in training and helping couples in therapy. Her mission is to provide inspiration, support and empowerment to everyone on their journey to a great marriage. She is currently associated with, a reliable resource assisting millions of couples to resolve their marital issues. She holds a Master’s Degree in Arts (Clinical Psychology with an Emphasis in Marriage and Family Therapy).

Twitter: @syliva_smith

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