5 Ways to Be Spontaneous In Bed

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Maybe you’re in a marriage that needs a little spicing up or just enjoy trying new things under the sheets. Either way, being spontaneous in bed can be fun and exciting. We’ve got a couple options you can choose from or even check them all off your list.

Find your own level of comfort with these 5 spontaneous actions but no matter what you choose I’m sure you’re in for a good time.

Talking Dirty

Talking dirty is an easy introduction to spicing things up in the bedroom. The trick to talking dirty isn’t necessarily doing it while actually in bed. You can begin with gentle suggestions through voicemail, text, and on the phone.

The key is to slowly build up anticipation. If you really want to take this to another level figure out something new to try in bed and hint at it without saying what it is. Once you’re in bed whisper exactly what it is you have planned.

This gives you and your partner that feeling of wanting that can drive them crazy. It’s like the feelings you get when you first got together. This can be great for married couples.

Dressing Up

There are two kinds of dressing up that both play a role in what happens in the bedroom. Surprising your partner with 5-star dinner reservation and nice clothes will make for a great time. When they’re coming home from work leave a nice dress or suit with a little note asking them to put this on and be ready by 6 pm.

The other way to dress up is in the bedroom. Test out lingerie or even go for the fantasy outfits. It’ll take a little exploring to find what’s right but try something new time to time.

Out of Character

This can be a fun one! Go beyond your comfort zone and give something new a try. We often get into this routine and only do the same thing. I don’t want to get too graphic here but I’m sure you get what I mean.

A little genuine conversation with your partner could lead to some surprising findings. It’s important to explore each other’s fantasies and help each other try the things we’re curious about. Always keep an open mind and you’ll have fun discovering new pleasures.


If you’ve never gone bare below the belt, then it’s time to give it a shot. Men, a little manscaping can go a long way. Because let’s be honest, no one enjoys getting pubes in their mouth. Take the extra time to shave and surprise your partner. If they don’t like it then it’s easy to let the hair grow back.

External Items

Bringing in third party items can add a lot of stimulation to the bed. Try some foods like whipped cream or strawberries. A little chocolate drizzle on the neck can be great foreplay.

Don’t forget the toys! There’s plenty of toys to try out and it can be a lot of fun. It’s important to keep an open mind with toys, though. There’s also bed restraints and other items in a similar category that will really be a surprise for someone not expecting it.

Before You Go!

I hope you enjoyed our 5 ways of being spontaneous in bed. It’s all about exploring your sexuality and trying new things with your other half. Even if you’ve tried it with someone else you may experience it differently with different people.

Leave a comment below and let me know what you thought. Also, feel free to leave some of your own tips. Thanks for reading!



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Author Bio: Wesley is the owner of iManscape.com. A site for men, beards, and manscaping. To see more from him, like this post reviewing the Trym II, visit his website or like iManscape on Facebook.

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