I’ve lived and traveled all over the world, as well as been in several relationships; the good, the bad and the ugly. I am definitely not a perfect gentleman but I still teeter on the gentlemen side of the spectrum. I can be picky when it comes down to who I date, but it when it comes to who meets the qualifications of the oldest icebreaker, the original hoop of fire between a man and women, that becomes a whole different list of criteria. Should I buy YOU a drink? There’s a list of qualifications that need to be met before I do, and these can be spotted from a mile away if you look for them.
Big difference between NY and LA:
Girls in New York will never assume you will buy them a drink unless they follow the criteria. They know, to get a drink…to get a good man interested, it takes a lot more than having twin chromosomes. Where as, women in LA fall short of this criteria. I will comprise a list for my audience.
Lets not even talk about beauty because that’s in the eye of the beholder. I’ve bought drinks for women because they were interesting and could carry a conversation. That being said there needs to be some kind of attraction; not just physical. There’s an inner-confidence that is attractive to every man regardless of size, shape, and color.
Why I will not buy you a drink.
Lack of …
1. Personality, no conversation skills
2. Respect for the dollar
3. Appreciation, sense of entitlement
4. Genuine (obvious agenda)
5. Independence (just because you can sucker a guy into buying you a drink doesn’t mean your independent) It is actually the opposite.
6. Class (Above all) – I’ve bought drinks for women on both sides of the bar and sometimes they will send it back or complain about it, don’t do that it shows you grew up in a trailer park. Not that there is anything wrong with that, but over time since then you should have learned some kind of manners.
Just because I say no, or don’t buy you a drink doesn’t mean I am cheap or am not a gentleman it means you don’t meet my criteria or you went about it the wrong way. You don’t deserve anything just because you have a pretty smile and can procreate. We as men want to meet an interesting lady, not a girl for the purpose of friend or lover. We as men are not adverse to meeting great people period.
I choose not to be a player at my older age, but I do choose to be a gentleman in the way I see fit.