As healthy and fulfilling as children are, and as much as you enjoy them in your life, an unfortunate side effect of a new baby is the lack of opportunity to make more kids.
Even if your lovemaking goal isn’t another pregnancy, sex is an important and healthy aspect of your relationship that needs to continue after having a baby.
It can feel like the last thing in the world you want to do, especially as a new mum who’s had a long day with a baby. But taking your own ‘baby steps’ towards regaining intimacy with your partner will pay off by keeping you close and connected as you deal with the new challenges you both face as parents.
So when you could ‘take it or leave it’, what are some of the ways that you can keep the intimacy alive after baby arrives?
Life Changes with a New Child in the Family
The presence of a baby almost certainly tunes down the hotness of a sexual relationship. Morning sickness and discomfort during pregnancy, the birth itself and sleepless nights that follow, tend to take over.
You probably won’t feel very “turned on” when the new addition to your family arrives. There are simply too many practical tasks to be done every day to have the energy to indulge in sex, but don’t throw in the towel. Adapt!
Simple but effective ways to maintain your love life are:
Think of New Things to Explore in the Bedroom
Before baby, you had the luxury of getting dressed up, looking and feeling awesome, flirting over dinner and drinks and then finally making it home for much anticipated sex.
After baby, you stare at each other across the piles of laundry, maybe manage a smile and flop on the sofa together once your little angel is finally asleep. How can you create an atmosphere of romance in the middle of the domestic drudgery that sometimes takes over with a new baby in the house?
It’s extremely common for your sex life to slow down a bit after having your first child. But slowing down doesn’t mean it must come to an end. Your time together will be different, but doesn’t have to be any less special and fulfilling than it was before the wonderful gift of a child entered your life.