Not to be confused with WWJD: What Would Jesus Do?
WWKD: What Would Kindness Do?
That’s right, Kindness.
(Although apparently Jesus was very kind, so, I suppose interchangeable. I will not go into religious debate here but suffice to say, this Jew has faith in all. And above all, kindness.)
The theme of classes this week is Kindness. In fact, this week is dubbed: ‘Project Kindness’.
The mantra this week, when the hands come to prayer is: I am Kind.
And in parentheses (especially to myself.)
And if you have seen the movie The Help you will be reminded of this scene indeed:
(“I is Kind. I is Smart. I is Important.” Yup.)
During Project Kindness Week I have asked my tribe these questions:
1) What can you do to be kinder ‘out there’?
2) What can you do to be kinder in here, as in, to yourself?
Turns out, when I asked them, it was tougher to be kind to themselves.
I get it.
I still struggle with it at times. It’s like an old demon I have to keep at bay. I keep a bat by my bed. (Well, really my husband keeps a golf club by his side but I took poetic license.)
“You’ve gained weight, Jen.”
“You’re lazy Jen.”
Those are just two examples of the old broken tapes that tempt to play in my mind even though I have upgraded to an mp3 player and they are like old cassettes or 8 tracks. They are old and unkind words that I know well and used to feel as comfortable as breath on glass.
Not so much anymore, but I won’t lie to you. Not here. They hover at the edges of my kind self and threaten to pounce when I am tired or overworked or my friend has just died.
OMG! That describes my last week.
Well, look at that.
So I decided to take the bull by the horns and show him what kindness looks like. Eye to eye. I decided to man-up.
Kindness is not very discerning.
It goes where needed and wanted.
So I asked my students, and now you, my readers: What Would Kindness Do?
Before every breath you take. Before every pose you attempt in class. Before you speak. Before you cut someone off in traffic. Before you post on Facebook. Before you do or be.
Pause and ask yourself this: WWKD?
I would love to hear below what you can do to be a kinder person? To yourself? In the world? To a stranger?
I dared my students to buy a coffee for the person in line behind them at the coffee shop. Will you take that dare?
I have never done this but I think it would make you feel good and the person you are buying it for. And, the barista and the cashier and the person at the end of the line and the wife of the guy you bought the latte for because when he tells her the story she will be reminded that “yes, yes there are kind people still out there” even though she may have just gotten laid off.
You see how it works? Let’s do this.
Let’s create a domino effect.
How can you be better than you were before?
I cannot control if you are kind or not but I will be damned if I am not the kindest person I know. That’s the thing I can control.
I will start by adding my own comment and you can follow suit.
What would kindness do? Kindness would send a gift card to the woman I know through mutual friends whose little boy was killed last week by a car (at age 3) and she was left with 3 other kids, one with special needs. Kindess would send her a gift card for a grocery store.
Kindness would say a silent prayer for the guy I saw standing at the entrance to the freeway with a sign that said “Smile”.
Kindess, as my friend Frank said, would hang out with other kind people.
Kindness would be ok with the fact that I have been in my pajamas most of day doing absolutely nothing.
Kindess would listen more.
Kindess would tell all that I love that I indeed love them.
I love you.
And then there’s always Star Trek……
What would Kirk do?
Reference to the infamous Captain James Tiberius Kirk of the starship Enterprise on the television series Star Trek and his creative solutions to seemingly impossible situations, problems, and interpersonal impasses.
WWKD suggests the solution to a problem lies in the question of “what would Captain Kirk do in my situation?”
*****************JENNIFER PASTILOFF www.jenniferpastiloff.com www.manifestationyoga.com @manifestyogajen