Adapting to the New Normal as a Single Lady


Even if you weren’t actively looking for love, the novel coronavirus pandemic probably put a damper on your social life. Now that it appears the virus won’t disappear anytime soon, how can you adapt to the new normal?

While it will take some work, you can embrace this time as an opportunity for growth. You can still meet Mr. or Ms. Right, but you might have to get more creative at the dating game. Here are eight ways that single ladies can adjust to the new COVID-19 reality.

1. Assess Your Comfort Level

Before you can venture into the new normal, you need to come to grips with your comfort level with mixing and mingling. Everyone needs boundaries, and not knowing yours can lead to peer pressure urging you into activities you’d prefer not to do.

You aren’t alone — please don’t listen to those who want to tell you that you are overly paranoid. Fully 91% of Americans feel uncomfortable attending a crowded party, and a smaller-yet-significant number still hesitate to have family members over or shop for groceries.

Draw a line — activities you will do, and those that you won’t under any circumstances. If someone questions your boundaries, consider it a red flag.

2. Phone Ahead and Check the Weather

An unfortunate fact of life in the new normal means arriving at Wally World only to hear, “Sorry folks, the park’s closed. Moose out front shoulda told ya.” To avoid embarrassment and last-minute plan changes that could make some in your crew uncomfortable, learn to phone ahead.

When picking a restaurant for girls’ night, remember that the Centers for Disease Control and Prevention (CDC)  recommends using patio seating whenever possible. However, if temps suddenly drop from triple digits to freezing, you’ll end your night out early if you forget a sweater. Please check the forecast — and carry an umbrella and sweatshirt in your ride.

3. Discover New Ways to Meet People

If you live in the sticks but miss big-city nightlife, guess what? The magic of virtual happy hours lets you socialize at downtown bars without leaving your couch. You’ll save money and meet new people.

Other apps, like Discord and QuarantineChat likewise help you connect with new folks. You can find topics to suit any interest.

4. Plan Sportier Outdoor Activities

According to the folks at the New York Times, interviews with health experts reveal one consensus — it’s less dangerous to partake in outdoor activities than to meet up inside. That’s because the virus isn’t confined and can’t recirculate through the HVAC system.

If going on a blind date, why not suggest meeting up at the park? If you’re the intellectual sort, pull up to the chess bench and challenge them to a match. If you love sports, play anything from frisbee golf to horse.

5. Remember, It’s Okay to Cancel Dates

CDC guidelines still advise folks to stay home if they show symptoms. If you have a fever, you should stay behind closed doors until 24 hours after it abates.

That might mean canceling dates, but please don’t look at it as a negative. Your prospective partner should tell you to get well soon and express sympathy. If they get possessive, accuse you of making excuses or react with anger, hello, red-flag alert.

6. Have the Talk Before Netflix and Chill

Human beings wouldn’t survive for long without a little hot and heavy action between the sheets. However, intimacy requires close contact, which makes it a pathway for disease transmission.

Consider this an opportunity to make sure the people you share intimate contact with are worthy of your attention.

7. Develop Other Areas of Your Life

Maybe you haven’t learned to strum the ukulele yet. You can still develop your talent.

Few times in recent history have lent themselves this well to personal development. Remember, you don’t need a partner to feel complete. Working on your interests makes you more fascinating, and may eventually help you attract the right partner.

8. Embrace This Crazy Solo Time

Have you always wanted to drive Route 66, but couldn’t find a partner who shared your freelance lifestyle? Who said you needed a co-pilot to fulfill your dreams?

Perhaps you thought about teaching English overseas, but you feared meeting someone abroad, falling for them — and leaving. Why not fulfill that dream now? Some language immersion programs let you start your career virtually. Then, when travel resumes, you’ll already have a considerable skill set under your belt.

You Can Adapt to the New Normal as a Single Lady

While it’s challenging to be a single lady these days, it’s also an exciting time to focus on yourself. It doesn’t matter if you are looking for love or not —  you can adapt to the new normal.

Jennifer Landis
Jennifer Landis is a wife, mom, writer, and healthy living blogger. She enjoys longs walks around the block with her toddler, prefers tea over coffee, and eats way too much peanut butter. You can find more from Jennifer on her blog, or follow her on Twitter @JenniferELandis

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