When You Get Married the Real Work Begins

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I just celebrated my two year wedding anniversary with my amazing hubby and took some time to reflect on my marriage and the work it takes to maintain a strong, healthy relationship.  I have a lot of single girlfriends and over the last few years they will drop a line when expressing a problem or issue they’re going through similar to ‘Well it’s different for you, you’re married’ … or ‘It’s easy for you, you’re married.’  Ladies, I hate to break it to you, but you should all stop romanticizing the idea of marriage.  Because it’s not until you get married that the real work begins!  And I have a feeling that all my married and divorced pals will agree.

When you get married and commit to another person completely and legally, the whole game changes.  Yes there is an added level of security on numerous levels if you’ve married a stable guy, but the road is far from easy.  There is no more ME – your YOU is now WE.  Yes you have someone to come home to, but you also have someone else to take into consideration for every meaningful decision you make.  This person is your equal and co-pilot in life.  You will likely spend as much time on them as you do on yourself.  Marriage requires your full attention and needs to be nourished every day.  You need to be there for your mate and often this requires making difficult sacrifices.  So enjoy your YOU time and enjoy the process of getting your selfishness out of your system.  Because when you say ‘I do’, you are saying a lot more than two simple words.

Stuart Brazell

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  1. Great article. I am going home for a wedding this weekend. Its a guy I’ve known for 20+ years, from grade school. He’s an MD so he’s stable and everything. It just blows my mind because I am at the point where I don’t know what to make of it all sometimes. Especially given the complexity of my personality, in the end, I just find myself at a quandary.

  2. Herb Edwards says:

    Congratulations on the two years Stuart. Here’s to many many more years of happiness.

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