Well, it seems that while everybody is joining the marriage set these days, there are just as many people coming out of the other side, and getting divorced. For those people going through the divorce process it can be incredibly isolating, and an emotionally fraught time, but this is more than stating the obvious. What happens afterwards? You have to pick up the pieces, and, in many ways, begin again. Dating after divorce can feel like an intimidating process, and now, it can be more stressful than it used to be, especially if you got married pre-Tinder. Let’s get this fixed.
Are You Ready?
The temptation can be to dive right in. But the divorce papers may not have even cooled down yet. We can think that it’s better to just get out there, but if we’ve been used to operating within a partnership, and now we find ourselves on our own, we could dive into dating without giving thought to what we really want. Some people spend their whole lives without being by themselves. And for those people, learning to be by yourself is incredibly liberating, because it can teach you so much in the way of self-resilience.
Getting Reacquainted With Being Social
It’s very awkward, getting back into the swing of things. And now, there’s online dating as the main way to meet up with people. And while there are apps like Tinder or Chatspin that can throw you right into it, the act of being social and sitting across from someone at a table, getting to know them, can be ignored nowadays. And if you spent so long making a home for you and your family, and now you are catapulted into the arena of awkward conversations where you have to find out if someone is right for you, it can take a lot of getting used to. Don’t rush into it, and if you’ve spent so long behind closed doors, take it easy, spend time with the important people in your life, and develop social skills gradually.
Take Your Time
This is why it’s important for you to figure out what you really want, there’s no time limit. But we, for some strange reason, put ourselves on a timescale. But why don’t you enjoy yourself? Dating can be very exciting, but it can be very stressful. In essence, it’s all about finding someone to share your life with, if you want it. If you find the right person, you will know, and from there, a relationship can blossom, but there’s no need to have your next suiter firmly within your target. After divorce, you can realize exactly what your priorities are in life, and maybe a relationship isn’t the bottom line, but if you still want to have fun, this gives you the perfect opportunity. Spread your wings, and figure out, not just what you want from an ideal partner, but take the opportunity to discover who you really are. Yes, dating after divorce is one of those complex and potentially awkward scenarios, but if you spent a long time going through marital difficulties, you owe it to yourself to take it easy.