We’ve all been there – you are having a coffee date with a friend you’ve known forever, listening to them pour their heart out as usual about what is going on in their life and all of a sudden you feel like you’re in a time warp. You’ve been having this same conversation for years and years – are you in high school? College? No! It is right now and in this moment!
They are complaining about the same things: they wish they were skinnier, why aren’t they more successful, why are they single, why is life so hard – me, me, me, complain, complain, complain. You of course, being a good friend, console them. It’s not their fault, it is everyone and everything else. Then it dawns on you … what am I getting out of this relationship? I’m constantly giving, but what am I receiving? They turn to you with every little problem and favor needed, but how do they support you?
As we get older and wiser, we realize it is time to clear the clutter. If your friendships are not a two-way street, it is time to head in a new direction. If you repeatedly make it clear that you need more in this relationship and nothing changes, then it is time to cut the cord and move on. Yes, it will be painful as all breakups are, but in the end you are doing a favor for both of you. Nothing is more empowering than standing on your own two feet and you deserve more than to be someone else’s crutch.
Co-Founder of DirtyandThirty.com
Stuart Brazell has talent, brains and beauty as distinctive as her name. She’s a fab, fierce, femme who always speaks her mind whether in person or online (just ask her husband). The social butterfly knows how to work a room and dress for every occasion. Equally comfortable on a red carpet or at a yoga retreat, she’s the sassy southern belle who friends call when in need of advice or just plain fun.